Life has been beautifully active and full these last two weeks, a real contrast to what I’ve grown used to. Friends have been staying with me and it’s been such a blessing, reminding me that being with long-time dear ones, those who know me so well, is such a blessing and a gift.
It’s also been a time for adventures and play, embracing fun and experiencing the joys of life. Full moon sea swims at dusk, visiting my childhood haunts, sipping spiced rum around an open fire as the rain percussed on a glass canopy, on a dark evening. Toad hunting, hill walking, cooking together and talking deep into the night. I have been meeting up with so many friends, some new, some long known. I salute you all, Emma and Andy, Sara and Daryl, Sandy and Alan, Karen, Rachel, thank you all for enriching my life. This has been a rich time of connection and sharing.
I’m painting an oracle deck of cards and every time I start a new card, its energy comes into my life and magic fills my being, seeping through all I do. I just finished card fifteen and am about to begin a new card called ‘Wild Abandon’ which is all about play, fun, joy and embracing movement and the harmonies of the universal energies.
Sometimes, we are called to move away from people who are in our lives too. In this year, I have been called to do this, even leaving my husband whom I will always love, choosing the call of my heart and soul, listening to what was needed when I love myself and embrace my truth.
When we know our paths are no longer heading in the same direction or that we are no longer resonating with each other, it’s time to be true to ourselves. It’s difficult to speak up at these times, but we’re acting from our empowered centre when we do, even if we’re not being heard or understood. We need to speak our truth from a place of love, not from hurt, which means waiting for the right time. If you feel called to move away from others, be true to yourself, say what needs to be said from your loving heart and then move away. This is not a time to engage in a two-way conversation, hopefully that’s already happened, if you stay to talk it through as you leave, it’s because you aren’t yet ready to go.
When relationships are ending, it’s sad but there are no certainties that two people will continue to belong together throughout a lifetime, whether as friends or lovers. More often, we move into each other’s lives for a purpose and then that purpose is over. Holding on, feeling obliged to stay when the energy has changed is never a good idea for either person, even though one or both may feel bereft or have rejection wounds triggered. Sometimes, those triggered wounds are a part of our soul path and an opportunity for understanding and healing to take place.
If you have a relationship that feels like it might be ending, it’s okay to accept the energy of ending and new beginnings. Whether you are the one speaking up and choosing to move away or the one who is being left, it’s okay. Be honest, open, trust yourself and them, find the right words, speak from a place of love. Don’t engage if it gets bitter, just walk away. What you are doing is going to free you both.