Listen, nobody is saying it’s easy being born into this world, growing up and living your best life. And if we are wise, we know that every stumble, every hurdle and every chain rattling around our ankles is there for a reason. We are here to learn and grow into our best selves and it’s when life brings forth challenges that we are forced to bring our best self to the surface.
As little children, many of us were not seen or heard, not by our parents, our teachers, our siblings, friends or society at large. Not because of who we were, but because others didn’t know how to see us. And some of us felt like that all the way through growing up and into adulthood. If you’ve grown up resonating with; “I’m not important” or “I’m not worthy” or “I don’t matter”, then you know what I’m talking about.
Putting ourselves out there does not come easy to us, from a young age, maybe we got used to staying in the shadows, being a pleaser, getting out of the way. So, good for you if you’re learning to step up now.
And do you know someone who’s loud? They’re giving off an aura of “Don’t mess with me!” Maybe they’re so strong you hardly ever see the person underneath, no vulnerability showing. They are tough and ballsy. Maybe they come over as unpleasant, aggressive and downright full of themselves. It’s normal to want to avoid such a person and maybe we’re the one who’s built that wall and we see how people perceive us as scary but we don’t know how to be any different.
Believe me, the tough ones are likely terrified of being outed as not good enough. They’ve been hurt and built a strong defence. It takes a brave and persistent friend to find out they’re not that hard, scary bully, that they have a centre as gooey as caramel if you get past their defences and a big heart lies hidden within.
There may come a time in your life when you start to change. Instead of being timid, you find your inner lion and start roaring. Or maybe you allow the cracks to light up your inner beauty and start bringing your impenetrable wall down. If you do, you will know that vulnerability is one of the most powerful gifts we have. When we change, we find ourselves learning to find that centre-point where authenticity shines. We may go a little too far the other way before we pull back to our true selves.
Let’s remember, we all encompass, deep inside, that same innocent, vulnerable little child we once were before the world messed with us. We are all truly beautiful and had we lived in a world that embraced love, peace and truth as the three principles of humanity, we would have grown up as the best versions of ourselves from the start. It isn’t our fault that we don’t live in that world, this world exists to bring out the best in us through the choices that we make and the actions we convey. We can choose to embody love, peace and truth for ourselves and the next generation. When we do find our best, authentic self, we can totally own it because it was totally down to us.