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Life After Death

Dr Mary Neal was trapped underwater for 30 minutes before anybody reached her body during a kayak accident.  No breathing, no pulse, Mary was pulled out of the water dead.  Nevertheless, her companions automatically performed CPR and 15 minutes later she started to breathe.  

Whilst Mary was dead, she was watching everything from above.  Mary had an overwhelming sense of being home and surrounded by loved ones.  She had no intention of coming back to life on Earth, the intensity of finding herself alive after her death found her feeling so much more alive than she had ever been when in her body.  When she was told it wasn’t her time and that she had to go back, she objected, she couldn’t believe she had to go back.  But she did.  She hadn’t given any credibility to life after death before this, she does now.    

T. Scott Marr suffered a massive brain stem stroke and was pronounced brain dead.  His family were ready to take him off life support because they were assured there was no hope.  But the morning the deed was meant to be done, he miraculously started to show bodily reactions.  Within hours, he was talking.  Whilst he had been brain dead, he met his deceased father who told him he had to go back.  He made a full recovery and this was something that just does not happen following the condition he was in.

Experiencing death is not something that’s powerless, lonely or frightening, it’s being surrounded by loved ones, experiencing the most blissful and rapturous love and light.  It’s feeling more alive than we have ever felt on Earth.  The incredible parallels reported by so many people who have been there and come back offer us all hope for a glorious death.       

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A Beautiful Death

I feel called to return to the subject of death.  And I almost feel like apologising because I know it’s not anybody’s favourite subject.  But we really, really need to be talking about it.  We really need to understand it better and reframe it for ourselves and each other.  And I believe it’s through a spiritual filter that death is best understood.

And that’s not easy, for many, ‘spiritual’ means there’s no evidence, no logic and no validation.

Well, validation is personal, so maybe you have your own spiritual validation to call on, I know I do.  Logic is subjective and what is logical to one is illogical to another.  And evidence presents itself through experience, and when they’re outside the realm of all we are taught to believe, we question our experiences.  But, in the end, that’s tantamount to questioning our own truth, and I’m not doing that anymore.

So, death.  I so wish we were taught about this holistically from the cradle.  Because all that we learn on this subject from an early age in our culture and society is messed up. 

One problem is, we don’t know what death is.  We don’t know what happens to us, it’s like there’s a big black hole of nothing at the end of what we call our life.  And, of course, that’s frightening.  That’s frightening for us and frightening to not know what happens to our loved ones when their time comes.  And then, we all have some experiences of loss, of grieving, of being left when someone we love is gone.  And how hard is that road.

We cannot find the answers in the material world for death.  Materially, there’s an animated body with a personality and consciousness that’s living its life alongside us one minute, and then next, there’s a lifeless body with no glint in the eyes, no movement in the limbs, no breath in the lungs and no beat in the chest.  We only need take one look and we know that person isn’t going to be interacting with us anymore.  In fact, we take a look and we see they are simply not present anymore.  They are gone.  Which just goes to show it wasn’t ever about the body, it wasn’t ever about the material.

Something I say from time to time, we think of ourselves as physical beings but only our body is physical.  We are also our personality, emotions, thoughts, consciousness, ego, soul, memories, none of that is physical.  Strange then, when most of what we are made up of is energy that we don’t think of ourselves as energy beings first and foremost. 

And death is all about energy. 

I’m not here to convince you that there’s life after death.  That, even when the body is an empty shell, our personality, emotions, thoughts, consciousness, ego, soul, and memories continue to exist and express as energy but without being visible because they are no longer contained in the body.

I will tell you this, I’ve had some funny experiences in life, seeing things, hearing things, knowing things, even smelling things.  And not so that I needed to go see a mind doctor.  Maybe you’ve had some experiences like that too, maybe you haven’t.  Maybe you just heard about so many experiences others had, many, many others.  Maybe you read up about all the different cultural beliefs and ideas about life after death, maybe you decided there’s got to be something in it. 

Well, I’ll tell you one thing, whatever happens when our loved ones walk through that door called death, it’s going to hurt us hugely to lose them, they are not going to be there anymore in the same way, no matter how you look at it, and that’s always going to be hard.  But grief is human, it’s natural.  It’s going to hurt a lot and it’s going to take time to get used to them being gone.  And even if you’re a psychic medium, someone who gets to talk to spirits who have crossed over all the time, you are still going to experience a heart-wrenching bereavement when your nearest and dearest pass through that door.  And there’s nothing much we can do about that except understand and support each other.

And, of course, each death is different, there are circumstances that can make that process harder and easier.  We need a death doula in every town.  A person, maybe a shaman, who can support the process for the soul and for the family.  And I guess that’s what I do, that’s what a psychopomp is.  A death doula.  It’s such a feeling of honour to be this, to be present with a family and a dying soul at such a profoundly intimate time.  There is nothing like it. 

It’s usually so peaceful, like being in the most incredibly holy sanctuary, church or temple to be with the soul at the time of transition.  Loved ones in spirit are present, sometimes, angels and even Archangel Azrael is present.  It’s a beautiful moment and it’s as if the person who is passing finds such deep peace at the last.  I think, sometimes, they need to find that peace in order to finally let go. 

I have come across frantic souls who passed quickly and tragically without knowing it, whose souls are scared and don’t know where they are or where to go, they didn’t have time for their soul to prepare them.  It’s been such a blessing to be there for them and enable them to understand and adjust.  Then, that deep peace descends and they calm down as they see the light, yes, there is a light, that’s where the deep peace is coming from.  It’s a door opening, or perhaps, more accurately, a crack between the worlds.  To stand at that crack and feel that love and peace, be bathed in that light, let’s just say I am never going to be fearful to be there for myself when the time comes.        

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Granma Wisdom and Petey’s Death

“Granma, look!  Petey’s dead!  I woke up this morning and he was lying on my bed, dead.”

“Oh, goodness darling, I am sorry that Petey has chosen to leave, he was very poorly yesterday and you know the vet said that might happen, don’t you?  I know it’s a shock and you’re going to miss him terribly, but it’s good to know he’s not in pain anymore.  You were so kind to keep him on your bed and let him be with you while he left.  I’m here anytime you need a great big Granma hug.”

“Why has Petey chosen to leave, Granma?”

“We all choose our death, sweetheart, just like we all choose our birth.  Death isn’t the opposite of life, life goes on, it’s the opposite of birth.  Death is a transition.  Now, that’s a big word and it means that Petey has gone through a kind of invisible doorway, and as he went through, you could say he’s shifted from being solid to being just energy, but he’s still alive.”

“But Petey didn’t choose to die, the vet said he picked up something that poisoned him.”

“Yes, she did, and she tried to make him better but it didn’t work. You know, there are many ways to die, to make that transition. Sometimes, it’s an illness, sometimes it’s an accident or situation where suddenly it happens. It’s rarely that we simply go to sleep and say; “I’m going now, see you on the other side.” But even when it’s unexpected and a terrible tragedy, there is a decision made by the soul and in agreement with the source, because we cannot cross through that doorway if we are not meant to go.”

“So, you’re saying Petey chose to go?  Why would he do that?  He loved it here with me, I know he did.”

“Ah, difficult to answer that, I don’t know what Petey’s soul journey is.  Maybe he did everything he came here to do.  Maybe another opportunity to live through another body opened up for his soul, a new life that would give him new learning.  

Think of it this way, remember when your Mom and Dad went away for three weeks?  They had to go abroad for a funeral, remember?  And they left you behind with me.  You were very upset they left you, weren’t you?  You didn’t want them to go, even though you knew they were coming back.  But we talked about it and you understood that it wasn’t about leaving you, it was something they had to do for themselves.  And they didn’t want to leave you but they needed to go.  Well, it’s just the same with Petey, he didn’t want to leave you but it was something he had to do for himself. 

Sweetie, it’s going to hurt, like it hurt when Mom and Dad left, that’s only natural and I’m here to listen and give you my special cuddles, right?  Remember what I said, the part that’s really Petey, his energy and soul, that’s still alive and choosing the next part of his journey.”    

“If he’s still alive, where is he, then?  And why do I have his body in my hands, Granma?”

“Sweetheart, keep still and let me wipe those big tears with my hankie.  You just said it yourself, sweetie, you have his little body in your hands, you don’t have Petey.” 

“But it hurts so much, Granma, I really love Petey, he was only a kitten and I don’t want him to go!”

“Sweetheart, he hasn’t gone far, would you like me to show you how to contact him now that he’s energy?”

“Can I?”

“Yes dear, anytime you like, he’s still around, you know, you just can’t see him because you’re focusing on his little body in your hands as being him, when he’s not that at all.

Come and sit on my lap and let’s breathe nice and slow together….that’s it.  Can you feel yourself calming down?  Remember how to connect to the inner peace that’s always inside you?  That’s it.

Now, close your eyes and see or just feel Petey here with you.  Can you feel him?”

“Kinda, but it’s faint, Granma.”

“Okay, if you sit like this from time to time, the connection will grow stronger and you’ll feel him every time he’s around you.  Here’s another way.  Put yourself inside your heart chakra, okay?

“Yes, Granma, I’m in.”

“Good, now inside that chamber of your heart chakra, take a seat in the chamber.  And notice there’s a chair opposite you.  Now, ask Petey to come into your heart chakra and sit on that chair.”

“He’s here, Granma!  I can see him!”

“Great!  How does he look?”

“He looks fine, he’s licking his paw, he looks relaxed and happy.”

“Good.  Now, inside your heart chakra, Petey can do something extraordinary, he can talk, so ask him how he is.”

“ ’Petey, hi mate!  So glad to see you, buddy.  How’re you doing?  Do you know you’re dead?  Are you alright?’  He says he fine and he knows.  He says he’s sorry he had to leave but he’s still going to be with me for a while.  He says he loves me, Granma!“

“That’s wonderful, sweetheart, and what do you want to tell him?”

“ ‘Petey, you know I love you too, so much, buddy!  And I’m really sad you had to leave, I’m really gonna miss you, Petey.  I think it’s gonna help if we meet up like this from time to time.  I’m so glad to know you’re alright.’ “

“What’s happening?”

“He’s come over onto my lap, Granma, and he’s rubbing his face into my hands and purring.  He says he’s gonna be sleeping on my bed with me every night.  I think he’s gonna leave now, yeah, there he goes.”

“How are you feeling?”

“Sad, but I’m gonna be alright.” 

“We’ll have a really special send-off for Petey’s body.  It’s going to be our way of celebrating the life he had with us.  Let’s sit down and plan everything we’re going to need and what you want to do, hey?”

“Okay, Granma, and thanks for helping me understand.”

“Anytime, sweetheart, always here for you.”

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The Dance of Life And Death

Sometimes, things end

Sometimes, stuff breaks down

Sometimes, everything falls apart

Whether it’s plans, dreams, hopes,

Whether it’s society, culture, structure,

Whether it’s relationships, career, status.

Whether it’s the lives of the ones we love

Or a complete stranger, or our own life.

It’s transformation

It clears the way for something new.

It’s a death.

And death begets life

Death cleanses

Death heals

Death creates a new beginning.

Do not fear change

Do not forsake what needs to be dissolved.

Do not deny the death of what is ready to transform.

Embrace the process

And let the fresh green shoots grow.

Embrace your truth,

The old ‘you’ dies

The old life is ready to fall by the wayside.

The new is constantly waiting to be born.

Our fear of death is as much about our fear of life, our fear to live.

We fear change and cling to the familiar.

The challenge is often that we are not good enough, we are not worthy,

We cannot step up.

Be brave, beautiful soul, you were made for this constant dance of death and life.

They are always present, whether you fear them or not,

Whether you engage or not.

You are worthy, you always were.

You are worthy to fully engage in truth

And death is truth

Life is truth

They are both beautiful and necessary

You are safe with them, they belong with us.

Surrender, trust, accept, receive.

Posted in darkness and light, death, Inspiration, love

Why Death is Our Dear Friend

Why do we need to visit death in order to understand life?

Why do we need to experience lack in order to understand abundance?

Why do we need to be abandoned in order to find the love inside ourselves?

Because…

How can we understand the light without knowing darkness?

How can we appreciate sound without comprehending silence?

How can we come to know our blessings unless we have suffered some misfortune?

So it is that misfortune is our wise teacher.

Silence is our welcome guest.

Darkness is our loving guide.

Abandonment is our great gift.

Lack is our secret treasure.

Death is our dear friend.

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Death is Love Teaching Us That We are One

We have such negative ideas about death in our culture.

And, of course, we don’t have to.

The truth is, humanity carries such a deep separation wound.

Separation from the divine,

From the Creator,

From each other,

From ourselves.

And so we fear death.

Because we only see separation

Where it does not exist.

And that can manifest as abandonment

Because we are here to learn and grow.

So, death comes into our lives to teach us.

Abandonment comes forward to teach us.

Rejection comes forward to teach us.

To teach us that we are love,

That we carry all we seek within ourselves.

We are always whole,

We are always divine,

We are always love.

We are never alone,

We are never separate from anything or anyone.

We are never abandoned,

We never were.

Death is here to show us

That we are so much more than our bodies

And we cannot lose anything or anyone

And if we look inside

We will see that there is nothing that is not us.

[Painting called ‘Homo Luminous: The Ascended Human’ by Ananda-Amenet Reid]

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Life After Death

I know there is life after death. How? Well, for one, because that concept just feels so right that when I try it on, it fits like the most comfiest garment ever. Then, I have a huge catalogue of personal experiences that show me this is so. And I don’t question it anymore.

For me, death is no longer the polar opposite of life because life is a continuum that moves through and out the other end of the gateway we call death. And I suppose this view has a lot to do with being fully integrated with my soul. You see, once you are integrated with your soul, you are no longer looking at everything from the perspective of being only your current personality and body. I am Ananda who is the body and personality that my soul is expressing through, in this particular incarnation, but I am also so much more.

I am my soul and my soul is infinite and eternal. I believe that all souls were created at the same time and have incarnated many, many times, and not always on the Earth. Our souls are a projection of the divine source.

I am all of that. So far, I have regained part memory of a handful of other lifetimes, and it’s probably impossible to remember many more, it would be overwhelming and a distraction from being Ananda.

And I also sense that, as my soul, I have spent a great deal of time on the inner planes or spirit world, more so than living on Earth in a body. And I have a strong sense that I vastly prefer not being in a body, but existing in my light body in the non physical planes, so I’m really looking forward to getting back there again some day, and to do that, I need to die.

Actually, I spend a fair amount of time over there when I’m asleep, using my energy body, and maybe you do too.

If we didn’t forget about all that when we are born on Earth, we would spend the entire time yearning to get back home, because being in the light on the inner planes is our true home.

The moment we start to see ourselves beyond our limiting bodies and personalities, we change our relationship with death.

I met a person recently who told me she didn’t want to leave her current personality when she dies because that’s her identity. She is hoping to unite with a past love who already passed through the door of death and be together as the personalities she knows. Based on my understanding of the spirit world, we do remain in the same personality as a spirit, even after our soul has moved into another incarnation. Every being we ever existed as continues on in existence on the other side. Whether the consciousness that I am now remains within them, I don’t know. I do know that the same rules don’t apply on the other side.

On the other side, you can be in many places, interacting independently, at the same time. You can manifest the reality of your choosing instantly, limited only by your imagination. You can move freely and instantly to anywhere, just by intent. You exist as energy and are not subject to physical conditions.

And you return to your soul group, your family from where your soul belongs and the love and connection you experience there is simply beyond description.

When a person dies, their experience of the inner planes varies, depending upon how much they remember it and there’s often a period of reconnecting with that state. This need not be so for those that travel there often in their energy body, through sleep, meditation or shamanic or trance states, whilst they were alive, they arrive with everything up and running, so to speak.

When someone dies, it comforts me to know they are going home. They are moving into such freedom and peace and love and total healing. They are going to revisit their recent life and realise the truth of who they are in a truly beautiful and affirming manner. They are going to be so enraptured by the light, they would fight to stay there rather than return to Earth. And they will still see, hear and walk amongst all their loved ones left on Earth, if they choose.

Of course, left behind here, I will miss them and I will grieve their loss. But I always have a lot of compensation for that through all I know of their new conditions.

And I know how to reconnect with them in the energetic, even though it’s not the same as being in the physical together. We can still talk and I will feel them around me.

The soul finds it far easier to pass through the gateway of death than of birth. Being born on Earth is much harder than dying. And considering living here can be so difficult, so challenging, so painful in so many ways, despite providing the opportunities we require for growth, it sometimes amazes me that we want to stay here so much or that we fear death at all.

That said, I also remind myself of the incredible beauty and the rich gifts that are received in living as the well-loved and blessed children of Mother Earth, not to mention the tremendous growth and wisdom that comes from experiencing this earthly life. And there’s nowhere else quite like it in the universe of the Creator.

Posted in darkness and light, death, Online workshops

Death is Our Teacher

Death is a subject close to my heart.  Being a psychopomp, a fancy Greek word meaning one who guides souls, death is ever present as a part of my role.  A psychopomp travels energetically using shamanic skills to connect with those who are in the process of departing through the transition we call death.  I help people and animals to pass over and also guide souls who are stuck, such as we might call hauntings, supporting them to move towards the light, enabling them to cross into the realms of spirit. 

I have found that the role of the psychopomp is all about those who are left behind, those sitting on the sidelines whilst a loved one is going through the process we call death.  Many times, I am present to support them, to help them let go, to be reassured, to move through their grief. 

Everyone is touched by death, sooner or later, we all lose someone we love.  And it’s hard.  It’s even harder that we belong to a culture that is not comfortable talking about death.  We are all concerned, not only with the grief of loss, but our own ageing and eventual demise.  How do we understand it, how to we prepare for it?  How do we talk to our children about it?  The truth is, so many don’t really know how or what to say and there are such discrepancies about what happens next. 

Personally, I feel very sure about what happens next, having had a lot of evidence from a young age to support my understanding, but this is the kind of evidence that cannot easily be shared. 

Recently, I’ve been working on a project with my niece, Psychic Medium and Rune Witch, Chloe Elgar.  She is someone who is very much in touch with death and embraces it along with life.  We have been exploring some of the energies death brings us.  That inspired me to consider running an online workshop on the subject of death because I really see there’s a need for us all to explore this together.  But then I thought, who will come to that?  And I let the idea fall away.  Then, a conversation led me to reconsider.  I was talking to a mother who was watching her twelve year old son struggling with the idea of death, and just as this was unfolding for him, his beloved one year old cat was hit and killed by a car outside his house.  He was devastated.  He is really getting an initiation into death from the energies on his path, it seems.  As we talked, I realised we do need to have workshops on death.  We do need to know how to help children manage the emotions and the ideas it brings, and not just children, we are just as much in need as adults. 

And from there, my next online workshop project was born.  Expect a few posts on this subject as I plan and develop the content of this new and, I feel, vital energy workshop.  As always, I will be calling in light beings from the inner planes, channelling their wisdom and supporting a deep state of awareness for participants to receive deep transformation in the understanding and embracing of the wisdom death offers us.