Posted in artistic, darkness and light, healing, inner child, love, Poetry, shadow self, transformation

Searching for Love

Is there anybody searching for love they never had?

Searching, yet, on self-destruct cos things are getting bad.

Because it’s quite a journey, not feeling worth a damn

Makes who you are feel like nothing but a sham.

Were you told no-one could love you?

‘Cos that’s just not true.

Do you know how many there are

Out there feeling just like you?

The truth is, very few know of your pain.

And very many feel exactly the same

And neither do they let their pain show,

Years of denial, taking knocks, blow by blow.

Running away through using drugs or booze or sex.

Always moving on from ex to ex to ex.

Or maybe it’s shopping or maybe it’s food,

The campaign to self-destruct is gonna get you screwed.

But always, underneath are words like poison darts

The ones that made you build defensive ramparts.

Words hiding in the back of your thoughts

That prove you’re worth nothing,

An aberration of sorts.

Well, you’re not, you’re simply caught up in a snare,

Take it from one who’s already been there.

I’m thinking back to what or who might have saved me

During the years when I wasn’t free.

Someone who’d been there, now doing fine.

Someone who knew how to draw a line.

Each journey is lonely and yet we all share

The same kind of experience, the same wear and tear.

Don’t feel resentful for things that don’t matter.

Find out who you are, let the past shatter.

Find all the love you need in your heart

‘Cos that will give you a true restart.

And don’t ever let anyone talk to you

With poison dart words that aren’t even true.

The love that will save you is the love you find inside

Let that love enrich you, it cannot be denied.

You are truly worthy, in fact, you’ve always been,

They didn’t have it in them, your soul was never seen.

But don’t let that stop you from moving on now,

You are amazing, let that be your vow.

Posted in darkness and light, healing, Inspiration, love, oneness, sovereignty, The Truth of our Being, transformation

Stepping Away to Reconnect

When we wish to connect deeper with someone or a situation or idea, it often helps if first we step away to go deeper into ourselves.

In stepping away, we go within and find the light within ourselves and then we reconnect from a more meaningful and profound place.

Many of us are finding ourselves almost forced into an isolated world, separated from others more than ever. The reason this is becoming our soul journey is to make sure we go within and find our inner peace and learn to unconditionally and unashamedly love ourselves wholly.

Then, we heal, we realise that we are not meant to remain alone, that humanity is a collective. We are ready to understand, from a place of inner peace and love that we are nothing without each other. From that place of inner peace and self love, we reconnect.

(‘Waterfall at Tresaith beach, Ceredigion, Wales’ photo by Amenet Drago)

Posted in healing, love

Looking at Children Differently

As a society, I can’t help thinking that society may have some healing to do when it comes to attitudes towards children.

Too often, I hear adults putting young people down. It’s as though some adults have forgotten what it’s like to be a child growing up in the world.

Children are sometimes perceived as demanding and needy. This may be because they are not getting their needs met. They try to get their needs met but maybe there are people around them who just don’t know how to meet them.

Young people are often accused of being rude and disrespectful. Have we not considered that they are confused about the messages they’re picking up? The adult world is full of mixed messages that don’t make sense and fearful messages coming from the media. Young people’s behaviour can be seen as a reflection of what’s going on inside them and there are times when the world today is enough to make anyone feel angry.

Some may think that young people are lazy, not making an effort, not trying hard enough, neither interested or motivated in what’s going on around them. Is it possible that they’re simply disengaged?

That might be the case if they feel disempowered or controlled. Are they feeling undervalued? Children are frequently put under pressure by adults. They may be told that their school days are the best days of their lives and that life is going to get a lot tougher. And that might make them feel misunderstood and unsupported if school’s stressful and they’re anxious about the future. Confusion causes frustration and stress.

Another common comment aimed at children is that they’re spoilt or entitled. Once again, if this is so, it’s a reflection of the parenting style they are subject to.

We may label children as troublesome or bad when they act in a way that makes us feel uncomfortable, and likewise, see them as good when they meet our standards and expectations. We must remember that we automatically embody a position of authority from our adult stance and we need to be aware of treating each child with the respect and acknowledgment that’s due from one human being to another.

Do you remember what it felt like to be a child?
Did you feel seen? Did you feel heard?
Were you given respect?
Were you validated and supported?
What are we choosing to pass on to the next generation of adults?

[Image: “Child Amongst the Ancestors: Stonehenge Summer Solstice” by Amenet Drago]

Posted in Abundance and lack, Ascension, darkness and light, Inspiration, love, Mother Earth

Love and Peace and the Happiest Man in the World

How was Christmas? One of the best things about Christmas is permission to have fun, to play, laugh and let our hair down. Did you get to do that this year?

Christmas isn’t always about having fun, sometimes it’s about grief and sadness. For some, it’s a continuation of the abuse or homelessness that is there every day.

I once heard a story about a man who everyone called “the happiest man alive.” He lived in abject poverty, no home, no job, no money, and yet, he was always full of joy. He walked the streets, everyone knew him in the neighbourhood, and he made it his business to look for something helpful to do every day. He was often found picking up litter and putting it in the rubbish bin, after all, his lifestyle meant he had an intimate relationship with the contents of bins.

In the park, people who looked sad would soon find a big smile from him. Many went to him with their problems, which is strange because he didn’t specialise in problems, he only beamed out love.

He had no family or friends, although everyone knew his name and many stopped to talk. Once in a while, someone would offer him an old woolly sweater or a hot meal which he accepted graciously. His name was Carl.

As for you and me, and Carl’s neighbours, we don’t know how to live the secret that Carl instinctively embodied.

All our feelings, thoughts, words and actions are not responses to what goes on around us but to what is going on inside.

If we feel sad, then something inside us is resonating with sadness, maybe it’s the grief of losing a loved one. Sometimes, the person we’ve lost and are grieving the lack of is ourselves.

When we are resonating love and peace inside, then we’re like Carl. It doesn’t matter what or who we lost, it doesn’t matter how unfair life seems, it doesn’t matter what others do or say, we continue to experience joy, happiness, blessings and peace because it’s always there inside.

The secret to life is to understand this truth and come to live it. We are here, right now, worrying about the Earth and the state of the world. We are embodying and expressing sadness, fear, worry, lack, not being enough, not having the answer, hopelessness, frustration, anger. The list goes on. How can we embody love and peace when we engage with everything going on outside and around us with these other emotions?

Now, imagine if everyone in the world put their energy into finding and expressing inner peace and love. Do you realise that would remove all the perceived problems in the world because everyone would be thinking and acting from peace and love? That’s the reason we are here.

Wake up, beautiful soul, stop putting yourself through so much pain, this is simple. All you need do is see it and choose it. You have the answer, we all do.

(Image: “Ignite Love and Peace, They Are Waiting Inside” by Amenet Drago

Posted in Inspiration, love

On Raising Apprentice Adults

Parenting is such an important and honourable role, it can become a little overwhelming at times. Here are some fundamental reminders about raising apprentice adults (children):

Give your apprentice adults space to explore themselves, the world and others, trust them.

Provide boundaries that gently enclose them in love whilst allowing them room to breathe.

Good boundaries are a balance between trust and nurture.

What is the purpose of each boundary you set, is it coming from your fear? Is it coming from your love?

Uphold your loving boundaries consistently and calmly.

Encourage creativity, free thinking, inventiveness, imagination, individuality and don’t put out their spark.

Allow your apprentices to have a true, clear voice. Really see them for who they are and validate them for being true to themselves, by letting them know you hear them and see them.

Let your little ones know they are loved without conditions.

Accept they are not you.

Accept that your job is to prepare your children for the world and then to let them go so they can explore it.

Remember, you don’t own them, they owe you nothing, you cannot live through them, you are here to guide them to be their best selves as they learn to step out into the world on their own.

Try not to label them as ‘clever’ or ‘pretty’ or such, because you may be setting standards they feel a need to live up to, and that might create a pressure for them that’s difficult to manage.

Instead, compliment individual accomplishments and behaviours in the moment, with sincerity. Celebrate all the little victories and achievements with them.

Don’t be fearful of the world yourself, or let them see your “what if…?” fears for them, or they will carry those fears with them, which will be crippling.

You are here to model unconditional love, respect, integrity, gratitude, trust and honesty.

Even though they are children and you are an adult, you are each souls of equal worth. Your children will have gifts and learning for you, allow them to teach you.

Even your mistakes are necessary and important for them to witness, because they need to know we are all human and that’s as it should be.

Be patient when they make mistakes, remember all the mistakes you made.

When they mess up, remind them who they really are.

If you get angry, take a pause. It only takes a few seconds to say something that could take years to heal.

As a parent, you won’t be perfect or necessarily healed of all your emotional wounds. That’s okay, show your children that you are okay with not being perfect and are stepping up to yourself, because you love and respect yourself enough to do so. This learning is the single best gift you can give.

Don’t forget to have lots of fun, laughter and play together. Enjoy each other 💖

Give yourself a big pat on the back because in being a parent, you’re doing the most incredible and important job in the world, with no manual, and you’re truly amazing.

(Image: “Working Myself Out” by Amenet Drago)

Posted in healing, Inspiration, love, The Truth of our Being

We Are Each Responsible For Ourselves

Imagine a world where every adult is truly responsible for themselves.

Not for anybody else, just themselves.

Everybody.

Fully committed to their own needs, their own growth, their own healing.

Stepping up to themselves.

Now, that’s the world we need.

That world is realised when we stop looking outside ourselves.

When we stop thinking we are incomplete without another.

When we stop trying to help, fix, change or heal others.

We are not responsible for them,

We are responsible for ourselves.

This is not selfishness,

This is love.

(Image: “Love Is A Vibrant Feeling” art by Amenet Drago)

Posted in divine magic, Inspiration, love

Beauty: A Symphony of Love

I use the word ‘beauty’ a lot and recently stopped to ponder what it means to me.

It isn’t so much about the appearance of things but a feeling. It’s an harmonious feeling. A soft, gentle feeling.

Beauty is something deep, like roots probing into the Earth. There’s nothing surface level about the beauty that I am feeling.

It’s a Goddess vibe, the divine feminine is expressed through its energy.

Beauty is strong like the trunk of a magnificent tree. It wraps you up, all soft pink and white, like chiffon and silk.

I feel beauty’s energy in my lower abdomen at the place known as the elixir field, the sea of my chi, the lower dantien (two finger widths below the navel). When my left hand rests over my right hand (right over left if you’re male) at my dantien, then beauty is invoked like a sacred fragrance through my being.

Beauty becomes a symphony of love when other qualities harmonise with it. Peace and serenity are engaged. The energy consists of strands that are braided together, as peace, love and serenity make a ‘beauty braid’.

When peace, love and serenity are present, that’s when beauty comes into being. A quality that can be felt and embodied whenever it’s invoked.

(Image: “Fire Sky” by Amenet Drago)

Posted in darkness and light, healing, inner child, love

Power Play and Boundaries

Setting boundaries can be hard and that’s something coming to the fore at the moment. It’s so easy to let things slip, then it’s difficult to do a u-turn and put a boundary in place.

And we can feel confused about how to communicate what we want in the best way.

There are times we are going to upset other people and that’s okay.

Have you ever come across a bully? Most people have and where there’s a bully there’s a person or people being bullied.

Have you ever wondered what determines that one person holds all the power and another person is powerless? It’s like a silent agreement between them.

The bully has made control and power their own. The bully feels entitled and lacks empathy.

The bullied is holding victim consciousness, feels guilt and apologises for their needs.

There’s a bully in my environs and although there’s talk about how troublesome they are, people continue enabling their behaviour.

It’s a two-way dance, it takes a mutual agreement. We do have the power to change that dynamic.

The bully in my environs is sometimes confronted but then, the same old dynamic quickly returns. In this dynamic, the souls are learning about personal power, not only the one who is controlling and manipulative but those struggling to stand up for themselves, to find and uphold their boundaries and embody their sense of empowerment. And this means learning how to love, honour and respect oneself.

Are you setting and protecting your boundaries?

Are you involved in a power play with anyone?

What are you learning from them about yourself?

Does that make you feel like changing in any way?

(Image: “Goddess: Yin Yang” by Amenet Drago)

Posted in inner child, Inspiration, love

The Ebb and Flow of Relationships and Learning to Love Oneself

People come and go.

We are souls connecting with each other.

We bring gifts.

Sometimes those gifts look like trouble and sometimes they are tremendous joys.

When the soul contract we have with each other is fulfilled, we can let go of each other and sometimes it’s necessary that we do so for each other’s growth.

It can feel difficult to let go.

The most important people in our life may become strangers overnight.

Just as total strangers may become the most important people overnight.

It can hurt, and the hurt is showing us what’s missing inside ourselves.

We are learning to let go, accept change, see the movement of people through our life as a refresh.

You will find the right people for you, for each moment you exist in.

You are changing and so the people who walk alongside you will also change.

They appear in your life when you accept the flow of change.

If we once experienced rejection, whether physical or emotional, we learn to fear being rejected again.

We may push others away before they can reject us.

We may not realise we are creating conditions that will make them leave us.

Then, we say, “I knew they would leave me all along,” as we place the blame squarely with them, never realising how our own actions brought it about.

And if we are the ones that walk away, did we let them go because we were able to look after our own needs or did we reject ourselves in trying to avoid being rejected by them?

Your well-being is more important than what others think of you.

More important than making people happy or settling for an easier life.

You are more important than the expectations others have of you.

Look after yourself.

And if that means letting someone down, possibly upsetting them, don’t hesitate to be kind to you.

Let your love for yourself be stronger than your need to be loved by others.

Posted in inner child, Inspiration, love

Feeling Hurt

Epiktetos, a Greek philosopher who lived from 50AD to 135AD once said:

“Another person will not hurt you without your cooperation. You are hurt the moment you believe yourself to be.“

How are we complicit when someone hurts us?

In what ways do we enable the other person to influence us thus?

Where is the hurt we feel coming from?

It cannot happen without our consent and our emotional response is the soul agreement we have with the other.

Their words or actions activate something that already exists inside us and then we feel hurt.

We created that, not them. Because we carry the potential to be hurt.

We are receiving an opportunity to perceive the hurt we are carrying.

It’s only when a belief we are carrying that isn’t true changes that the patterns change.

The belief is very old and very deep. It’s absolute and so deep we may not realise it’s there.

Hurt is the signal that alerts us to the presence of a false belief within us.

It’s our inner child that’s hurting.

What does our inner child need that’s missing?

To be loved, to be seen, to be heard, to be acknowledged, to know that they are truly worthy.

So you see, when someone hurts us it’s a gift, a chance to meet our hurt inner child and remind them they are loved, heard, seen, valued and so, so worthy.

Image: “Understanding My Hurt Feelings” by Ananda Amenet Reid