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Are We Opposing Our Opponent?

There’s a lot of energy coming into my awareness at the moment about opposition.  Not in my reality but I’m aware of it around me, so I feel it’s asking to be written about.

The kind of opposition I’m talking about is bullying, not children, adults, but I suspect they are coming from a wounded child-like energy inside.  There are two types, actual face to face aggressive behaviour towards another when unprovoked and online thoughtless nastiness expressed through comments in community group posts, so these are people who live in the same community with each other.  Maybe this is something you’ve noticed around you too.

There’s a lot of opposition and polarity going on due to Covid, mostly around those that are inoculated and those that are not.  Before that, we had Brexit.  There’s a lot of opposition energy coming up in the world and I do feel this is a releasement.  It has to be expressed, noticed and then released through love.  Many people are stuck in the expression stage and they are not noticing.

Another area where this is manifesting is in the opposition between politicians/consumerism and the fears that a lot of people carry about the so-called ecological destruction of the Earth.  When we carry anger, fear, guilt, frustration or any kind of emotion expressed towards a situation, send it love.  This is another interface of opposition energy and another manifestation of fear, which we can get nowhere with but we end up creating more separation and worsening the energy.

When we respond to our opposer, we create an interface into which our opposer crashes.  There is a clash.  Opposition tends to be met with opposition, like two bulls coming together with a powerful collision.  It’s not going to improve the situation, is it?  In fact, it does the opposite, it makes the energy of aggression spike drastically and it becomes impossible for either of the opponents to back down or step away.  

What will happen if one of those bulls were to step to the side?  Then, the charging bull is going to be so full of momentum that he might run into a wall.  In any case, he’s going to miss his mark, not hurt his opponent and think hard about doing that again.  Maybe there will be a few more charges before he gets it, but if one opponent removes themselves from the situation, then there can be no clash, no aggression, no victim and no situation.

So, how does this translate to people?  A step-aside could mean physically walking away.  It could mean staying but instead of moving into opposition with the opposer, we stay calm, we stay in ‘adult’ mode.  Moving into opposition means becoming angry, reactive, taking it personally, and that means shouting back or perhaps getting hot-under-the collar tearful or emotional.  We go away feeling worse, not better.  And all of that emotion is a ‘child’ response.

Staying calm means we don’t personalise because it’s always about them and not about us.  We don’t respond or get angry, which is coming from our inner child who comes forward with those feelings from traumatic times when our child-self felt that way.  Instead, we notice and choose to remain in adult-self.  Adult-self stays calm and speaks like an adult.  We call them out, calmly, for what they are doing.  We demonstrate that they have missed their mark, we are not hurt or even ruffled and then we walk away.  In my experience, that usually leaves the attacker speechless because that just doesn’t happen to them and they don’t know what to do.

What about when we just cannot move away?  Perhaps it’s a neighbourly dispute.  We get creative and consider how else we can remove ourselves from the situation.  Can we remove our fear, our expectations?  Are we seeing them as the powerful one and ourselves as powerless?  How can we change that narrative and create a new self-narrative where we empower ourselves and disempower them? 

Can we be an energy-ninja and manifest an energy of invisibility around ourselves?  I use this and it works, it’s as though we are no longer going around with a target on us, we go under the radar.  Opposition is a template we carry inside ourselves.  Lack of opposition can be our template instead, if we embrace it.  The best advice I can give is don’t oppose. Don’t personalise. Stay in adult mode and don’t get emotional. And send out love to your opponent because it’s going to be healing for you and them if you do.