Epiktetos, a Greek philosopher who lived from 50AD to 135AD once said:
“Another person will not hurt you without your cooperation. You are hurt the moment you believe yourself to be.“
How are we complicit when someone hurts us?
In what ways do we enable the other person to influence us thus?
Where is the hurt we feel coming from?
It cannot happen without our consent and our emotional response is the soul agreement we have with the other.
Their words or actions activate something that already exists inside us and then we feel hurt.
We created that, not them. Because we carry the potential to be hurt.
We are receiving an opportunity to perceive the hurt we are carrying.
It’s only when a belief we are carrying that isn’t true changes that the patterns change.
The belief is very old and very deep. It’s absolute and so deep we may not realise it’s there.
Hurt is the signal that alerts us to the presence of a false belief within us.
It’s our inner child that’s hurting.
What does our inner child need that’s missing?
To be loved, to be seen, to be heard, to be acknowledged, to know that they are truly worthy.
So you see, when someone hurts us it’s a gift, a chance to meet our hurt inner child and remind them they are loved, heard, seen, valued and so, so worthy.
Image: “Understanding My Hurt Feelings” by Ananda Amenet Reid