Hands up all those who give healing to others, whether you do it for a living or because you have friends and family who need it and you can support them? Now, keep your hand up if you remember to regularly provide for yourself a focused healing when you need it. Who’s still with me? I have a feeling we lost a few people there and maybe you were one of them.
If so, you are not the only one who’s not so good at looking after yourself because I had to put my hand down too. I’ve recently become more conscious of it, in fact, it keeps coming up on my radar, every time I speak to someone about including them in my nightly healing session, I remember to include myself, but do I ever? Nope.
Maybe, like me, you have a wingman. These days, I’m lucky to have my very talented, Reiki Master soul sister in my life, we give each other healing regularly so we know we’ve always got each other’s backs, and I don’t have to ask, she checks in with me and if she picks up that I need a boost, she’s on it. Therefore, I feel very blessed and looked after and her loving support is a huge privilege.
Sometimes I get migraine aura and sometimes my energy’s a bit flat, what with separating from my husband and moving house during lockdown. I do meditation once or twice a day to connect with my guides, soul, soul group, for integrating my healed inner children, to cleanse my chakras and regularly activate the templates and energies that are brought to my attention. So, I’m probably ahead of the game.
But I’m talking about something more, I’m talking about self-love being expressed through our actions. I’m talking about caring about ourselves and showing it to ourselves. In some ways I do, in others, there’s room for increasing the expression of loving myself.
Sisters and brothers, I do believe we need to pay attention and find some time to be there for ourselves in different ways. Think of all the times we put pressure on ourselves, not getting things done, not checking in with people often enough, not eating properly, not taking me-time when we could, not scheduling the things we love the most that make us feel alive before all the chores and demands of others.
Here’s where I shine and fill my chalice to overflowing:
- When I go out into nature most days and breathe, feeling the cold air on my skin, connecting with the sky and distant hills, walking along the windswept beaches or through the still and nourishing woods.
- When I make time for something creative in my day. This could be painting or drawing, making something crafty like painting a stone or making a mobile from driftwood. It could be cooking something delicious that feels creative, rearranging a room or just the corner of a room. It could be planting up a new area of the garden or decorating some plant pots. It could be writing a short story or poem. Let’s find our creative and let it flow, it really does feed the soul.
- When I’m called to provide a full blown shamanic intensive healing for somebody it fills me to bursting with energy and gives me a deep sense of purpose. It enlivens my sense of self-actualisation, I feel I am being my best self, all my gifts are called into service in a meaningful and fulfilling way and that’s food for my soul and enriching for all of me.
- Recently, I decided to set aside two days at the full moon and two days at the new moon as a time of personal seclusion and self-focus. I did this once so far, the first day was absolute bliss, one of the best days ever. The second day I woke up with the worst migraine and spent the day in bed, but maybe that’s the kind of self-nurture my body needed. My next two moon seclusion days start tomorrow and I’m super excited because of all the things I’ve got planned; drumming, naked voice singing, making a mandala out of natural materials like leaves, wood and stones in the garden and a number of activations and downloads of spiritual energy. I think I’m going to download the Oneness Template. And who knows what else is yet to come forward. Yes, this is such a fulfilling, exciting and nurturing thing to do, total self-love in action.
Here’s where I need to focus my attention to support my self-care better:
- Putting my laptop, book or phone away and going to sleep earlier than silly-o’clock. Getting plenty of sleep and then rising early enough to seize the day.
- I still have work to do in developing my attitude and behaviours around food and nurturing my physical self. This is a big issue for me, after a lifetime of imbalance. I get somewhere for a while and then lose it, swinging from success to failure, and even in saying that, I can feel I need to make some attitude changes. I do sense it’s been waiting for inner child healing, it’s behaviour attached to beliefs from childhood trauma, but I feel I’m getting there slowly.
- Not putting pressure on myself for all the things I don’t get done.
- Getting out into the wider world for more exploring and roaming in nature, roll on the end of lockdown.
How about you? Where do you express your self-love and how do you nurture yourself? Do you feel you are putting your own needs forward, in balance with everything else in your life? What are your personal ways for making yourself feel loved and cared for, for feeding your soul? Where might you be able to make some improvements?