In my meditations of late I’ve been asking for, from within my being, a state of deep peace. A peace so deep that only love can live there. Wouldn’t that be nice? To be at peace in any given situation or circumstance, to only experience deep peace. Aaahhhh! Yes. Nice.
It occurs to me, in achieving such a state I would be letting go of all struggle, all baggage, all challenge, maybe even the desire to achieve. I would simply become.
Have you ever met somebody, and in getting to know them you see yourself reflected in them? You recognise yourself, your struggles, your loves, your journey, your habits, your choices? Maybe even your temper, your wounds, your fears? They tend to be the people we either instantly love or hate, because we see either the best or the worst of us staring in our face. When we recognise ourselves in others, we are really recognising the divine source, the unifying factor that is us all. The blending of all beings into a source.
Upon the Earth, this is an experience of connection. These are the ones with whom we make the deepest connection and we call them our soul family, our tribe. Connecting with another is accepting them, supporting them. To do that well, we must first accept ourself, support ourself. This is the energy of oneness, and I think it is akin to what I was looking for in finding that state of deep peace.
It is a state of openness, of allowing our energy, our love and light to flow, to receive and to give our light to and from others. Not only other people but all energies upon the Earth, all living beings. When that light and love is flowing in connection like that, we are in a state of oneness.
Oneness is the absence of separation, the absence of fear. It is openness and connection without judgement, without conditions. In oneness, we embrace ourselves fully and learn to accept the dark and the light in equal measure, with the same spirit of surrender.
Oneness is like a kind of a community. Have you ever been to an event or a place where you really felt you belonged, where you felt a part of everything and shared a deep connection with everyone who was with you there? Maybe something incredible happened that you all witnessed together? When you come away from an event like that and everyone separates, you really feel a sense of loss. You lose that sense of being understood, without words, because you all shared the same deep understanding. You know you can’t talk to anybody else about what happened there, they just wouldn’t get it. We crave to be with those with whom we can feel and connect so deeply as that. That is what oneness is like, and it can be there all the time and with everybody.
Where is that missing from my life? Everywhere. Almost everywhere, there are those with whom I have experienced this within my life but it’s not always easy to stay in that place. Why? Too many wounds, too much growth surges, too many challenges that bring ego to the fore and steal the stillness that this kind of experience requires. It’s often the simple surface practicalities that cause a feeling of separation; distance, emotionally and physically. Communication breakdowns.
Mundane normality steals away the magic; bills, chores, tasks, problems, commitments. Ego. Ego is a big one, ego can really put a damper on connection and openness. And fear, they go hand in hand. It’s often lack of confidence, of worthiness, we don’t settle into that sense of belonging because we fear what somebody else may think. We don’t have the courage, and it really needs to be there deep, deep down, where we don’t tend to peer inside of us, not just surface courage.
Think of all those times when we push people away, when we disregard them, refuse help, feel we have to do this on our own. The times when we convinced ourself that there is nobody who gets us, who understands, nobody who cares. All the times we feel lonely.
We are living in a period of time when many of us have experienced loneliness with Covid and lockdowns. Imagine rewriting that experience whist bringing in the energy of oneness, of unity and connection. That energy starts within us, it is that place of deep peace within. It is the confidence, the self-belief, the presence to surrender to our own beauty and that of every being around us.
How can I ever feel lonely? How can I entertain that idea, unless by choice? If I feel loneliness, then I must be closing myself down. I live in a house with a loving husband. We are separating but we still love each other deeply and he would never refuse me a hug if I needed one. He wouldn’t even ask for a reason. If he sees me struggling, he will offer to cook something for me or suggest that we go for a walk on the nearby beach together. And I have two very affectionate cats, they are always up for cuddles and attention, they never say no either. How could I diminish their value and importance? Their unique kind of connection is the purest of all. No judgements, no communication issues, no holds barred, they are totally committed to open connection with me at the drop of a hat.
What am I doing, thinking that I’m lonely? Discounting my loving husband and my two adorable cats? I’m creating limitations and conditions, aren’t I? As if they don’t count, are not what or who I’m craving connection with. I could have a deep and open connection with the beings in my household in every moment and they would certainly value and appreciate my reaching out. I really need to open myself up to oneness every day and remember that oneness doesn’t pick and choose, we are all the same. What if we are all closing ourselves down inside and feeling alone whilst creating the belief that the ones we are with are not the ones we want or who want us? What if we take a risk and reach out? Only now matters. We might surprise ourselves and them. I suspect we will find that we are all craving support and acceptance from each other, to give and receive, we are all waiting to be invited and somebody has to make the first move.